Could this really be true?

I Am Woman!

I come in many shapes and colors. I am soft and delicate, but nothing to play with.  I stand on my own two feet, I depend on one.

I am Woman, I am strong, beautiful, unique, a fighter and survivor. I am Woman, irresistible, seductive, sexy, and voluptuous. Yes I am

I play many roles, Mother, Aunt, Sister, and a Daughter. I’m bad and loving it. Looking good like a woman should, I stand out like a skyscraper and stand strong like a house build with bricks.

I get a kick out of challenges, nothing holds me down.  I’m always ready for the next round. I do need love from a good man, a man that’s not afraid to really be what a man should.


I am Woman seducing you with the swing of my hips, temptation at its best.  My soft curves and my beautiful tresses are longing for your soft caress. I am defined by my mind not my beauty. One look in my eyes and you are mesmerize by my strength, my dedication and strive to survive.

I’m a proud lover and achiever letting no one astray me from my ambition. I’m more sensitive then the opposite sex, but I fight my battles and have won many wars. I hold it down like no other, protecting my children from life’s evil. Molding them into their best physically and morally and I must say I look pretty good doing it.

Woman to Woman we go through a lot struggling to be to be treated as equal in society and in relationships. We love hard with disregard of how we are sometimes treated. We deserve the best and never the less we will always be Queens of our throne.

I am proud of my womanhood, I am proud of who I am. Independent, strong willed, provider, nurturing and flamboyant of my style. I love driving men wild.

Loving who I am every part of me, I’m not perfected but I am a site to see.

I am Woman

by  Lorna Darden

I'M AN ALIEN!!

I feel so freaking misunderstood! There's so many things going on right now, and I just need to get everything out of my system.

Have you ever felt like people don’t get you?  Perhaps it’s something you see clearly and they just can’t see it (a perspective or viewpoint), or perhaps it’s your sense of humor and you find not too many others get your jokes. Whatever it is, I’m sure there have been times in your life when you’ve felt misunderstood.

When your head is clouded with schoolwork (assignments, exams etc), work and family problems (just to name a few), it’s easy to feel abandoned in a vast world of deep emotions and complex new ideas. Your friends are caught up in their own lives and your parents are pretty much creatures from a different planet, so it’s easy to feel alone and misunderstood. To make matters worse, people try to assure you that they understand where you're coming from. But how can anyone who isn’t me possibly understand what I am going through?

But maybe, just maybe, we aren’t meant to be totally understood.  What if we’re meant to figure some things out for ourselves, discover who we are as a unique being, how we’re different from others, and what makes us special and distinct?  What if by not understanding us, others are gifting us with this self-awareness of our unique qualities and ways of being in the world?

I am sick and tired of explaining to others about who I am and what I stand for. I know what I’m doing, and I’m not stupid. Everyone has their own perception about what a woman should be like. What makes a good woman? Beautiful, honest, trustworthy, dependable, can cook, will help anyone that is down, work like a dog, comes home early, clean the house and treat her man like a King, basically a perfect being….guess that's enough or you might think….

You know F**k It. I’m just going to be me!

YES, I’M AN ALIEN & I’M PROUD OF IT

THE GOLDEN RULE: RESPECT vs AVOIDANCE BEHAVIOUR

"He who wants a rose must respect the thorn.” Persian Proverb quotes 

What is respect?

1. Respect means showing regard and appreciation for the worth of someone or something (this includes answering the damn phone or SMS and not practicing avoidance)
2. It means honor and esteem
3. It includes respect for self, respect for the rights and dignity of all persons, and respect for the environment that sustains life.
4. Respect keeps us from hurting what we ought to value.

It is felt that respect is a two way street. If you give respect, you get it. Sometimes this law is broken. 

What is Avoidance Behaviour?

A conscious or unconscious defense mechanism by which a person tries to escape from unpleasant situations or feelings, such as anxiety and pain.

The reason this topic is so important is that those who practice avoidance behaviors can ruin everything they have by not beating the urge to avoid. I’ve learned a very important lesson over the past weekend. Relationships (family, friends etc) are very fragile and it doesn't take long for the one who avoids dealing with relationship problems to make big problems with the ones we care the most about. Furthermore, it's amazing how little there's written about this issue. When you find some tips they are often about either CBT, e.g. challenging yourself to express your feelings/opinions, saying no, or about learning and getting an adequate attitude towards conflicts e.g. “you can't erase conflicts, they are a natural part of life” If we avoid problems in our relationships, time can make the difficulties so difficult to overcome that one may decide to just get out of the relationship instead of trying to repair it. 

Treatment for Avoidance Behaviour

If you feel yourself beginning to avoid problems in your relationships, find a counselor that you can talk to or a close friend and let them help you face your fear. The clearest and I think most practical theoretical approach to understand this concept is Prochaska and DiClemente’s Stages of Change Model

This model along with the theory of attachment provide organizing principles that if combined allow us to understand the reasons why we resist change or seek destructive behaviors, habits, people, and how to find a way of managing relapses with the need for subsequent behavioral changes throughout our lifetimes. Again, if we understand that we are seeking attachment as a way of filling a void, replacing someone or something that feels missing, along with the reality that relapses and behavioral changes are ongoing, not static, never done, existing on a continuum, then we are taking the longer view, which is so necessary to creating and maintaining change. It is the short view where we think if we change a bad habit or destructive behavior then we are done that gets us in trouble, causing us to not be prepared for a relapse when it inevitably occurs.  In conclusion, treat others as you want them to treat you because what goes around comes around.

The "Great Escape"

My review on St. Regis.... 6 STARS…..

I have to say the image that St. Regis portrays is one of luxury, opulence and grandeur. I am glad to say that on my first ever visit the hotel has exceeded my expectations. Every staff is nice, smiling, instantly responsive and helpful. The lobby is cozy, with modern paintings from contemporary Asian artist. But I really don’t understand the statue….BUT what the hell!!!

And my room--where to begin? Heaven. The attention to details in the room was superb. The shower and bath were invigorating. I pitied the bath tub cause Anand bath in it and he was singing every time from Britney….so you can imagine lah…JESUS…I think St. Regis needs a new bathroom make over.

Anand, Shalala and I enjoyed the complementary breakfast. Honestly after staying here, I really don't care what people may say about Raffles, the St Regis is hands down the best hotel in Singapore. Can't recommend highly enough, for business or pleasure!

I had the craziest weekend with my beloved Anand and Shalala. 

Life!!

Lucid!!

 

Thanks to my Lecturer Dr Ang Yong Guan :)

 

Tu me manques

Today was just one of those days where everything I did reminded me of you and every song I heard somehow related to you. I sit here and wonder if you'll ever understand just ... .... . ....... ..  you.

I know you've been busy, I had things to do too. We haven't talked for some time, and I wonder if everything's fine. I had other stuff on my mind, I'm sure you did too, but I just had to tell you this my friend... 

hey I miss you.

Free My Soul: The angst of a love no longer shared.

I'm fighting gravity, trying to fly,

To soar with the wind to pastures new,

But gravity's winning, I'm falling fast,

Back down to earth, back into you,

To suffer for my pains again,

Within a love, no longer good.

It seems to me there's no escape,

From the misery and the pain,

Stuck in this melancholy sadness,

I long to reach a higher plain,

A place away from your tyranny,

A place where a happy serenity reigns.

It seems I exist in a world of dreams,

A dreamscape never, never land,

Where nothing is real, nothing exists,

Except the numbness that plagues my mind,

The emotional turmoil of quickening madness,

That leaves all rationality behind.

Our love's become disturbed by anger,

The angry words we choose to spit,

Are filled with angst and uncertainty,

Fueled by your sarcastic wit,

Defying all communal harmony,

It no longer holds it's grit.

I believe it has slipped away too far,

To be able to retrieve it's sense of wonder,

That long since dead feeling of awe,

Before we let our love go under,

The fragility of what remains,

Is tearing itself asunder.

I tried to hold the pieces together,

But like grains of sand, they slipped away,

Just as time continues forward,

The past becomes a memory,

A distant thought in the back of my mind,

Long deprived of sincerity.

There's nothing left worth fighting for,

But still you won't release me,

Nor will you content my heart,

By putting it out of it's misery,

It seems you enjoy the pain you give,

As you hold me to my declared testimony.

Like a powerful magnet, I can't pull free,

From your grip of solid steel,

That holds my heart within it's prison,

So I suppose I'll have to content myself,

Resign myself to your charity,

In the hope that one day, you'll free my soul.

I AM!

Don't allow the pressures of life to change who you are, how you view the world or the things that bring you happiness within yourself! Stay true to yourself!

Hell's Kitchen!

The belly rules the mind.  ~Spanish Proverb
 

Believe it or not, I have actually started “cooking” this year. More than my masters or bachelors, I have to say that “the ability to cook” is my greatest achievement. Never in a million years, could I imagine myself being a cook. I am not insulting myself but this is a fact. The following video below is my best friend Revathy trying out my food and critiquing for the second time. Jesus!

I have to say that the kitchen offers one of the best and most creative places for practicing mindfulness. Many mindfulness practices are done in yoga studios or meditation rooms where everything is designed to be calm and peaceful. This is a nice way to begin the practice of meditation, but real meditation starts to take place when it’s intimately integrated into daily life. What better place to start than in the kitchen?
     Turning a meal into a meditation experience can be a beneficial way to observe the mind, explore challenges and also show love into a meal designed for yourself, your family or a friend. When viewed as play, it can also bring fun into the practice and keep it light and joyful rather than dour and serious. But more than that it can be an opportunity to consciously cook with love.

 

I LOVE U MT!!!

People are unreasonable,
illogical, and self-centered.
Love them anyway!

If you do good,
people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway!

If you are successful,
you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway!

The good you do today,
will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway!

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway!

The biggest person with the biggest ideas can be shot down
by the smallest people with the smallest minds;
Think big anyway!

People favor underdogs,
but follow only top dogs.
Fight for underdogs anyway!

What you spend years building up
may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway!

People really need help,
but will attack you if you help them.
Help them anyway!

Give the world the best you have
and it may kick you in the teeth.
Give the world the best you've got anyway! ...

You inspired me as child....you have been one of the most important influential icons in my life. Thank you Mother Teresa!

Imagine (Mind) + Believe (Heart) = I Believe I can Fly (Acheive)

 "In the sky, there is no distinction of east and west; people create distinctions out of their own minds and then believe them to be true." 

-Buddha

Billions of people fail to live the life they have always wished to live. These people fail to realize their ambitions and give up on their big dreams as soon as they encounter the first obstacle. One of the strongest reasons for this attitude is that these people do not believe in themselves.

Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. Safe and comfortable but dull and utterly pointless. Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again.

Lastly, hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you. Create your own life and then go out and live it.

You want the Truth, you can't HANDLE the TRUTH!

 “You can bend it and twist it... You can misuse and abuse it... But even God cannot change the Truth.”- Michael Levy 

Why do people get upset when you confront them with the truth? It's been said that honesty is the best policy. It sounds like the simplest thing in the world; but being truly honest with others can be a real challenge.

Honestly, life's complicated. The truth hurts most of the time because it’s not what we want. I am not trying to generalize but most or maybe some of us want a fantasy world where everything is perfect. If you say something to somebody which is both negative and logically sound (truth) then their mind will have to jump through more hoops to dismiss it which can cause anxiety or frustration.

Well, isn’t telling the truth good??? Am I right Rum Rum :D!!

Thinking about it, if you shut the truth out and bury it under the ground, it will but grow, and gather to itself such explosive power that the day it bursts through it will blow up everything in it's way. Is this really necessary?

STOP- THINK- REACT (STR Effect)

"Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but it gets you nowhere." ~ Glenn Turner

It's sad that we live in a culture/society where everyone seems to worry. Turn on the news: someone got killed, a new super-viral flu is coming, terrorists are regrouping … and the list goes on and on (Alamak headache). Sometimes I wonder if everyone realize that they have the authority to decide how they are going to spend their life, and they could actually control the situations that arise in their everyday lives. For some people worrying is like a paycheck, every week there is something to worry about. If you think about it, worrying can be easily put to rest by deciding what things are important in life. Not that you don't care about the situation, but somethings will work out for themselves if you stop and think, before reacting.

 

I've met far too many individuals suffering from this affliction. Hopefully we will find a cure some day. Let's hope!

A Dream, A Dream

  A dream, A dream,
another dream.
A dream of you,
A dream of love,
A dream of you and me,
we had such chemistry,
If only you could see.
A dream we danced in the moonlight,
A dream we made love til the mornings bright light,
A dream, A dream,
Where my true feeling burst,
A dream, A dream
Makes me feel more hurt.
A dream, A dream,
of true love,
over and over,
over and over,
A dream, A dream
where we are together,
A dream, A dream,
why can't it be real,
A dream, A dream,
where really connect,
A dream, A dream
that I can't reject,
A dream, A dream,
and another dream,
Why can't it be real?

Why can't you love me?

Poem by Succitam Ris 

Introduction ???? Nahhhhhhh

Since this is my first time blogging, I know I'm suppose to introduce myself.... But whyyyy?????? At the end of a long introduction: You omitted perhaps one thing- that is your true identity of your inner self. So I'm going to skip this part....

I have a lot of respect for individuals that are capable of creating endless amounts of nonsense. Hence, Theophilus London has become one of my favorite singer/ rapper. Check him out!