Could this really be true?

I Am Woman!

I come in many shapes and colors. I am soft and delicate, but nothing to play with.  I stand on my own two feet, I depend on one.

I am Woman, I am strong, beautiful, unique, a fighter and survivor. I am Woman, irresistible, seductive, sexy, and voluptuous. Yes I am

I play many roles, Mother, Aunt, Sister, and a Daughter. I’m bad and loving it. Looking good like a woman should, I stand out like a skyscraper and stand strong like a house build with bricks.

I get a kick out of challenges, nothing holds me down.  I’m always ready for the next round. I do need love from a good man, a man that’s not afraid to really be what a man should.


I am Woman seducing you with the swing of my hips, temptation at its best.  My soft curves and my beautiful tresses are longing for your soft caress. I am defined by my mind not my beauty. One look in my eyes and you are mesmerize by my strength, my dedication and strive to survive.

I’m a proud lover and achiever letting no one astray me from my ambition. I’m more sensitive then the opposite sex, but I fight my battles and have won many wars. I hold it down like no other, protecting my children from life’s evil. Molding them into their best physically and morally and I must say I look pretty good doing it.

Woman to Woman we go through a lot struggling to be to be treated as equal in society and in relationships. We love hard with disregard of how we are sometimes treated. We deserve the best and never the less we will always be Queens of our throne.

I am proud of my womanhood, I am proud of who I am. Independent, strong willed, provider, nurturing and flamboyant of my style. I love driving men wild.

Loving who I am every part of me, I’m not perfected but I am a site to see.

I am Woman

by  Lorna Darden

I'M AN ALIEN!!

I feel so freaking misunderstood! There's so many things going on right now, and I just need to get everything out of my system.

Have you ever felt like people don’t get you?  Perhaps it’s something you see clearly and they just can’t see it (a perspective or viewpoint), or perhaps it’s your sense of humor and you find not too many others get your jokes. Whatever it is, I’m sure there have been times in your life when you’ve felt misunderstood.

When your head is clouded with schoolwork (assignments, exams etc), work and family problems (just to name a few), it’s easy to feel abandoned in a vast world of deep emotions and complex new ideas. Your friends are caught up in their own lives and your parents are pretty much creatures from a different planet, so it’s easy to feel alone and misunderstood. To make matters worse, people try to assure you that they understand where you're coming from. But how can anyone who isn’t me possibly understand what I am going through?

But maybe, just maybe, we aren’t meant to be totally understood.  What if we’re meant to figure some things out for ourselves, discover who we are as a unique being, how we’re different from others, and what makes us special and distinct?  What if by not understanding us, others are gifting us with this self-awareness of our unique qualities and ways of being in the world?

I am sick and tired of explaining to others about who I am and what I stand for. I know what I’m doing, and I’m not stupid. Everyone has their own perception about what a woman should be like. What makes a good woman? Beautiful, honest, trustworthy, dependable, can cook, will help anyone that is down, work like a dog, comes home early, clean the house and treat her man like a King, basically a perfect being….guess that's enough or you might think….

You know F**k It. I’m just going to be me!

YES, I’M AN ALIEN & I’M PROUD OF IT

THE GOLDEN RULE: RESPECT vs AVOIDANCE BEHAVIOUR

"He who wants a rose must respect the thorn.” Persian Proverb quotes 

What is respect?

1. Respect means showing regard and appreciation for the worth of someone or something (this includes answering the damn phone or SMS and not practicing avoidance)
2. It means honor and esteem
3. It includes respect for self, respect for the rights and dignity of all persons, and respect for the environment that sustains life.
4. Respect keeps us from hurting what we ought to value.

It is felt that respect is a two way street. If you give respect, you get it. Sometimes this law is broken. 

What is Avoidance Behaviour?

A conscious or unconscious defense mechanism by which a person tries to escape from unpleasant situations or feelings, such as anxiety and pain.

The reason this topic is so important is that those who practice avoidance behaviors can ruin everything they have by not beating the urge to avoid. I’ve learned a very important lesson over the past weekend. Relationships (family, friends etc) are very fragile and it doesn't take long for the one who avoids dealing with relationship problems to make big problems with the ones we care the most about. Furthermore, it's amazing how little there's written about this issue. When you find some tips they are often about either CBT, e.g. challenging yourself to express your feelings/opinions, saying no, or about learning and getting an adequate attitude towards conflicts e.g. “you can't erase conflicts, they are a natural part of life” If we avoid problems in our relationships, time can make the difficulties so difficult to overcome that one may decide to just get out of the relationship instead of trying to repair it. 

Treatment for Avoidance Behaviour

If you feel yourself beginning to avoid problems in your relationships, find a counselor that you can talk to or a close friend and let them help you face your fear. The clearest and I think most practical theoretical approach to understand this concept is Prochaska and DiClemente’s Stages of Change Model

This model along with the theory of attachment provide organizing principles that if combined allow us to understand the reasons why we resist change or seek destructive behaviors, habits, people, and how to find a way of managing relapses with the need for subsequent behavioral changes throughout our lifetimes. Again, if we understand that we are seeking attachment as a way of filling a void, replacing someone or something that feels missing, along with the reality that relapses and behavioral changes are ongoing, not static, never done, existing on a continuum, then we are taking the longer view, which is so necessary to creating and maintaining change. It is the short view where we think if we change a bad habit or destructive behavior then we are done that gets us in trouble, causing us to not be prepared for a relapse when it inevitably occurs.  In conclusion, treat others as you want them to treat you because what goes around comes around.

The "Great Escape"

My review on St. Regis.... 6 STARS…..

I have to say the image that St. Regis portrays is one of luxury, opulence and grandeur. I am glad to say that on my first ever visit the hotel has exceeded my expectations. Every staff is nice, smiling, instantly responsive and helpful. The lobby is cozy, with modern paintings from contemporary Asian artist. But I really don’t understand the statue….BUT what the hell!!!

And my room--where to begin? Heaven. The attention to details in the room was superb. The shower and bath were invigorating. I pitied the bath tub cause Anand bath in it and he was singing every time from Britney….so you can imagine lah…JESUS…I think St. Regis needs a new bathroom make over.

Anand, Shalala and I enjoyed the complementary breakfast. Honestly after staying here, I really don't care what people may say about Raffles, the St Regis is hands down the best hotel in Singapore. Can't recommend highly enough, for business or pleasure!

I had the craziest weekend with my beloved Anand and Shalala. 

Life!!