Just saying...

Dear Heart...time to listen to your Brain.

I realize that I can't help being the person that I am. I am always thinking about everyone else's needs before myself. Sometimes being me is psychologically and emotionally draining. I always give with all my heart and it does not matter who u r. Family, friends, colleagues and clients etc. And I don't expect anything back from anyone. It hurts me when people take advantage of my kindness and make it all about them.

I think it's time for me to let things go and focus on myself. I am tired. And I am done with the negativity. Time to move on.

REBOUNDS!!!! BEWARE OF IT!!!

Maybe a french fries? lol

I had to write a blog about this cause i just ended a friendship with a guy (i reallyyy liked) who i think was rebounding with me. It's very sad that the even the nicest guy can be a jerk when he gets his heart broken.

"Unfortunately, we all need time to process and heal to be truly available and when we don’t, we use other people as emotional airbags."


Based from my observation, a rebound relationship is simply an attempt to fill a hole in your life that was left by an ex. Another way to describe a rebound relationship is an attempt to avoid the pain of the breakup. It's an attempt to feel the same way you were feeling while you were in a relationship with your ex.

Most unhealthy rebound relationships will possess a few (but probably not all) of the following characteristics:

1.  Getting Involved with Someone Who’s Not a Serious Prospect (I AM THAT FOOL!)
2.  You Like the Relationship for the Attention (FOR MY CASE...AMEN!!)
3.  Calls or Text Partner When Lonely, Neglects Partner When Happy (YUP)
4.  You Want to Show Off Your New Partner to Your Ex
5.  Projecting Traits of Ex Onto New Partner (THIS IS BTW HIM AND GOD!)
6.  Thinking About Your Ex While Being with Your New Partner (HIGH POSSIBILITY!)
7.  Not Including the New Partner in Your Inner Circle (HE WOULD WANT TO MEET YOUR FRIENDS INSTEAD - PLS SAY NO :) 

What can you do?

I am pretty drastic. I would probably dump him, even if i think that this guy is great. I would still dump him. Here's my logic. As long as you are in the relationship or "friendship: with him, he will be able to distract himself from dealing with the issues he really needs to deal with.I know this might sound kind of disappointing, but trust me, it’s better you really think this through now before you get deeply entrenched in a relationship with someone who hasn’t worked their stuff out yet. It doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy, or that you aren’t good enough or even that you aren’t good together.  Chances are, you probably do have some real chemistry together.

If you can manage to step back gracefully and give him lots of space to really, truly work out his stuff, maybe in a month or two he’ll have it completely worked out and MAYBE! you two can start something on a virtually clean slate. You would have to be patient and really disciplined to give him that space, but it’s much much better than going through a relationship where you’re competing with the ghost of an ex.

For me, hopefully i am still available when he is ready. I need someone who is completely IN! I wouldn't be completely be in with someone who is not 100% wanting to be with me. Be a Queen ladies. Know your worth :)

Love,
Su 

Note to self!