1. Listen to Music and Shake it OFF!
When I get really desperate and can't bear my own whining in my head anymore, I drown it out with musicians who express what I feel (anger, sadness, frustration) or sometimes, where I'd like to be (calm, beautiful, relaxed). We hold memories everywhere in our bodies and music will create a reaction that you may not expect. Play soulful music everyday until it no longer makes your heart cringe and your chest constrict.
Warning: Do Not LISTEN TO BREAKUP OR LOVE SONGS!!! It will make you feel like shit. We don't want that to happen. Focus on songs which makes you smile or empowered.
My recommendation would includes Work it Bitch - Britney, We can't stop - Miley Cyrus, This girl is on fire - Alicia Keys feat Nicki Minaj, Survivor - Destiny child, Strong Enough - Cher, Shake it off - Taylor Shift, Happy - Pharell Williams, It's time - Imagine Dragon, Animal - Maroon 5, beautiful day - U2 etc.
Another thing which you could do for yourself is DANCE!
"Dance first. Think later. It's the natural order." - Samuel BecketDancing is therapeutic and makes the endorphins flow. There's no right or wrong way to shake that booty and doing it might very well bet the boost you need. Dance like Nobody's watching!
2. Work it out B.I.T.C.H!
Getting your sexy back after a breakup is the best revenge!
During the relationship, I gain almost 20kg within 1 1/2 years. I looked and felt like shit, I felt like i lost myself during the relationship. So once the relationship ended I decided that I would want to reinvent myself. First step: BE HOT!
After a breakup you're looking for a reason and it's hard to get the painful thoughts out of your head. The quickest way to stop your negative thinking is to interrupt it by moving your attention from your mind into your body. Awareness of your body is grounding and in most cases it will bring you "back to yourself." Even though it seems like the last thing you want to do, exercise has the power to change us from the inside out. The absence of pleasure-producing endorphin after a break up can make you feel sluggish and miserable. TRUST ME I KNOW. Exercise increases your endorphins. Join a health club, take the stairs instead of the elevator, walk to work, do some yoga or take a salsa lesson. Stay HEALTHY! I have to say being a lazy cat myself, working out seem to be a challenge but remember to...
3. Travel Alone (Highly recommended)
4. Create a Live My Life List
As I boarded the plane to travel solo to Vietnam, I looked back at my parents. My mom's last words were “Don’t talk to strangers”. A bit of an inside joke as I was off traveling all the way around the world on my own. It left me giggling although my heart was still mending from the ‘other man in my life’s’ last words … “It’s over”.
You’re never alone when you travel as you’re constantly sharing experiences and learning new things with all the new people you meet. From the busy train platforms, to the museums and restaurants you visit, a traveler is always in the company of strangers.
If you have a broken heart I highly recommend traveling, especially traveling solo. You will meet amazing people, encounter spectacular beauty, and learn so much about yourself. You will return knowing a little more about the world, but more importantly, you will return with a mended heart.
4. Create a Live My Life List
The fear and anxiety we experience when our relationship has ended is not a real one. There is no danger to our lives… even if it feels that way.
It’s rather the fear of the unknown that terrifies us.
Where will the path we are forced to take lead us? Will we survive alone? Who are we without our partners?
The impossibility of imagining a favorable future is terrifying.
Creating a bucket-list – a list of things we want to do before we die, is a perfect way to reset your priorities – what is really important to you? Start welcoming these new possibilities by brainstorming and setting some new goals for yourself. Make some of them easy and others more difficult to achieve, but pursue all of them with equal gusto and have confidence in yourself no matter how lofty the goal. Anything is possible even if it isn’t probable.
So I am asking you today: What would you do if you were fearless?
5. BE Happy
I've got fire in my blood and desire in my bones. I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition.
“The power of positive thinking” is hardly a complex idea. Positive thinking helps us look on the bright side, which motivates us, gives us confidence in ourselves and lets us radiate happiness to others, all of which are great things. Happiness breeds success, after all. The happier you are, the more positivity you'll cultivate around you, leading to bigger and better things.
If you can’t be happy where you are, with what
you have, you never will.
My challenge to you is this… Be happy today. Be content with your life now. Stop trying to heal your inward brokenness with outward success. No job, or person, or implant, or promotion, or house will ever heal the disease behind them. Seek healing through counseling, be vulnerable with a friend, and ask the hard questions of why you do this?
Always remember that there's an end to your darkest day..
6. Take time to reconnect with yourself. Alone.
In a serious relationship, we often become half of the other person instead of a full and unique version of ourselves. This is largely why breakups are so hard. But once you’re set free, you can find yourself again. You can spend time doing you and doing what you love, unhindered by anyone else’ opinion or constraints. It’s all about you. Everything. Why shouldn’t it be?
The end of a romantic relationship is hard, but it is hardly the end of the world. Don’t jump into a new relationship because you need attention or physical connection or to fill a void. Be strong in yourself know what you want.
Caring for yourself is one way to get your life back on track and to get yourself feeling happy and whole again. I guess the take home message would be to re-discover who you are in the absence of your ex-partner. Focus on ways that you can grow as a person, and do things that bring you—just you
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8. Forgive and Let go
Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.You, of course, are the one who gets poisoned. You have to accept all your own failings and your previous partners issues. Things usually aren’t one-sided. Forgive yourself and forgive your past. Release yourself from guilt!
The past is done; it does not influence your current consciousness unless you allow it to.
After you complete all of these steps necessary to surviving your breakup, it is important to keep one thing in mind: have faith! Don’t become a cynic who thinks girls rule, boys drool, and true love just doesn’t exist. Know that this heartbreak is a rite of passage in life. If you can’t have faith that something great will come along again, then really, what’s the point?! Take pride in knowing who you are and how valuable you are. Focus on every step you take, it's leading you in the right direction: FORWARD!
